Há muito tempo que não fazia isto, e não vou voltar a fazer, mas este é um termo importante para a psicologia e serve para identificar racionalmente o que sentimos emocionalmente e não temos como explicar. A ver se começamos a relacionar-nos decentemente uns com os outros. Não, não é impressão sua…
The 7 Stages of Gaslighting in Relationships*
How gaslighters emotionally manipulate, traumatize, and exploit victims.
Gaslighting is a form of persistent manipulation and brainwashing that causes the victim to doubt her or himself, and ultimately lose her or his own sense of perception, identity, and self-worth. The term is derived from the 1944 film Gaslight, in which a husband tries to convince his wife that she’s insane by causing her to question herself and her reality.
In its milder forms, gaslighting creates a subtle, but inequitable, power dynamic in a relationship, with the gaslightee subjected to the gaslighter’s unreasonable, rather than fact-based, scrutiny, judgment, or micro-aggression. At its worst, pathological gaslighting constitutes a severe form of mind-control and psychological abuse. Gaslighting can occur in personal relationships, at the workplace, or over an entire society. Ler Mais…
IDENTIFYING EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION
YOU MAKE A STATEMENT THAT IS TURNED AROUND TO BE USED AGAINST YOU IN A NEGATIVE WAY.
The person will speak with an air of honesty that is in fact a cover for their true intentions. An example would be that you would tell this person something like, “I am really angry that you forgot my birthday.” Their response would be that “it makes me feel sad that you would think I would forget your birthday, I should have told you of the great personal stress I am facing at the moment, but you see I didn’t want to trouble you. You are right I should have put all this pain (by this point, persuasive tears may begin to appear in order to give more credence to this manipulation tactic being used) aside and focused on your birthday. Sorry.” Ler Mais…
Uma explicação é, no limite, …
Traits associated with low self-confidence include:
1. Undervaluing your experience and abilities; writing yourself off as being “no good at anything”
2. Accepting the blame for things when it isn’t your fault
3. Holding back, especially in groups, and dreading sharing your opinion – or anything about yourself or your life; being very shy and reserved
4. Having unrealistic, perfectionist standards for yourself – and at the same time being highly self-critical
5. Obsessing over things that went wrong in the past (especially if was something you said or did)
6. Being preoccupied with the negative outcomes and potential failures (And what people will think of you – as a consequence of that)
7. Being fearful of a wide range of people and situation; dreading going, or doing, something new
8. Doing things to please others – even when it’s things you really don’t want to do (for fear of disapproval, rejection, or losing face)