INFP- To Never Give Up On Love*
INFPs have a strong sense of commitment, and want very strongly to be able to connect to others. Whether it be romantic or platonic love, INFPs are always searching for something real and meaningful. No matter how hard it is, the INFP always remains hopeful that they can find the people who will make them feel complete. INFPs care very deeply about others, and take their relationships very seriously. They are complex and sensitive individuals with a desire to find meaning in life. Learning to never give up on love no matter how hard it may be, is an important lesson that we can learn from the INFP.
*Something Profound That We Can Learn From each Myers Briggs Type
A Michaela Chung fez uma lista das melhores 100 citações para introvertidos. Aqui ficam as minhas preferidas, e uma que lá deixei:
“I am rarely bored alone; I am often bored in groups and crowds.” ~ Laurie Helgoe
“You see things. You keep quiet about them and you understand.“
“Let’s clear one thing up: introverts to not hate small talk because they hate people. We hate small talk because we hate the barrier it creates between people”. Laurie Helgoe
“Introvert conversations are like jazz. Each player gets to solo for a nice stretch before the other player comes in and does his solo”. Laurie Helgoe
“People inspire you, or they drain you – pick them wisely”. Hans F. Hansen
E a minha: “Seduce my mind and you can have m body, find my soul and I’m yours forever” Anónimo.
Créditos fotográficos e outros dela.
MBTI – O seu tipo é Introvertido ou Extrovertido? A sua função principal é Sentimento ou Pensamento? E a auxiliar, Sensação ou Intuição? Myers Briggs acrescenta aos tipos e funções de Jung: Judging ou Perceiving?*
Extraversion like to focus on and get energy from the outer world of people and activity. They tend to:
- Prefer to communicate by talking
- Learn best through doing or discussing
- Be sociable and expressive
- Readily take initiative in work and relationships
People who prefer Introversion, on the other hand, focus on and get energy from their inner world of ideas and experiences. They tend to:
- Prefer to communicate in writing
- Learn best through mental “practice”
- Be private and contained
- Take initiative when the situation or issue is very important to them
Thinking/Feeling preferences describes how we make decisions, whether through analysis and reasoning or empathy and personal values; while Sensing/Intuition preferences describes how we take in information, whether it be in a factual and concrete way, or an imaginative, future-oriented one.
The J/P preferences define how we deal with our outer world, whether it be in a planned and orderly way, or a flexible and spontaneous way.
Se ainda não sabe qual o seu tipo psicológico, vá aqui e veja a luz.
“It’s so incredible to finally be understood.”
Há muito tempo que não fazia isto, e não vou voltar a fazer, mas este é um termo importante para a psicologia e serve para identificar racionalmente o que sentimos emocionalmente e não temos como explicar. A ver se começamos a relacionar-nos decentemente uns com os outros. Não, não é impressão sua…
The 7 Stages of Gaslighting in Relationships*
How gaslighters emotionally manipulate, traumatize, and exploit victims.
Gaslighting is a form of persistent manipulation and brainwashing that causes the victim to doubt her or himself, and ultimately lose her or his own sense of perception, identity, and self-worth. The term is derived from the 1944 film Gaslight, in which a husband tries to convince his wife that she’s insane by causing her to question herself and her reality.
In its milder forms, gaslighting creates a subtle, but inequitable, power dynamic in a relationship, with the gaslightee subjected to the gaslighter’s unreasonable, rather than fact-based, scrutiny, judgment, or micro-aggression. At its worst, pathological gaslighting constitutes a severe form of mind-control and psychological abuse. Gaslighting can occur in personal relationships, at the workplace, or over an entire society. Ler Mais…
IDENTIFYING EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION
YOU MAKE A STATEMENT THAT IS TURNED AROUND TO BE USED AGAINST YOU IN A NEGATIVE WAY.
The person will speak with an air of honesty that is in fact a cover for their true intentions. An example would be that you would tell this person something like, “I am really angry that you forgot my birthday.” Their response would be that “it makes me feel sad that you would think I would forget your birthday, I should have told you of the great personal stress I am facing at the moment, but you see I didn’t want to trouble you. You are right I should have put all this pain (by this point, persuasive tears may begin to appear in order to give more credence to this manipulation tactic being used) aside and focused on your birthday. Sorry.” Ler Mais…
Uma explicação é, no limite, …
Traits associated with low self-confidence include:
1. Undervaluing your experience and abilities; writing yourself off as being “no good at anything”
2. Accepting the blame for things when it isn’t your fault
3. Holding back, especially in groups, and dreading sharing your opinion – or anything about yourself or your life; being very shy and reserved
4. Having unrealistic, perfectionist standards for yourself – and at the same time being highly self-critical
5. Obsessing over things that went wrong in the past (especially if was something you said or did)
6. Being preoccupied with the negative outcomes and potential failures (And what people will think of you – as a consequence of that)
7. Being fearful of a wide range of people and situation; dreading going, or doing, something new
8. Doing things to please others – even when it’s things you really don’t want to do (for fear of disapproval, rejection, or losing face)
1. The relationship should be natural, easy and uncomplicated: The truth is that all relationships take time, effort, commitment and energy. You need to make time for each other, to do fun things together, to work on communication, and to learn to negotiate and compromise.
2. The relationship should be conflict free: Because we are each individual and unique we all disagree with other at times, so conflict is natural, and not to be feared. In fact, conflict can force us to confront our differences, and to grow as individuals, and as couples too.
3. Soul mates are romantic: Real life is not the movies, and love can be expressed in countless different ways, and still be genuine. Look out for all the signs that show your partner cares, and don’t be disappointed if they’re not “the stereotype”. Don’t force them to be something that’s maybe not their style.
4. You should always see things the same way and have the same opinions, outlooks and beliefs: You both have different backgrounds and have individual brains so you’re going to sometimes differ in the way you look at life. That needn’t be a problem – it’s healthy to be different.
5. My soul mate will always like and love me: Consideration, respect and a concern for your partner are symptoms of a loving relationship. But being rude and disrespectful or irresponsible are not endearing qualities that build relationships. Instead, we need to give to get from others – as it’s not “all about me”.
1. Complain all the time (It will make you miserable and drive your friends away.)
2. Bury your head in the sand and deny that you have problems (Avoidance won’t make your problems disappear!)
3. Constantly compare yourself with others (You’ll always feel inferior if you compare your weaknesses to others’ strengths.)
4. Allow yourself to continually worry about the future. (Most “what ifs” never actually happen.)
5. Keep hanging out with people who put you down (That will totally destroy your self-esteem).
6. Keep on doing things you dislike or hate. (You only live once – and we each have different gifts – so it’s crucial that you try to invest in what you love.)
7. Get involved, and stay, in relationships that are bad for you, and which make you unhappy. (You’ll end up hating and devaluing yourself, and convincing yourself that you can’t have more than that.)
8. Try to change others instead of yourself (We can’t change others – we can only influence them; but we do have the power to change ourselves.)
9. Be a people pleaser. (We can’t make others happy all the time. Also, when you give up your power you feel worthless inside.)
10. Look for your worth and value in “things” (Stuff can’t satisfy us or bring true happiness.)
Só somos responsáveis pelos nossos atos, palavras e omissões. Jamais pelo que …